Mindset and Fixing It

Why do I write these blog posts? I’d like to answer that question for you, first and foremost, because this post may be jarring to some who read it. Also, apologies for length.

I write these things because I love all of you (even those of you I’ve never met or talked to) and I believe you deserve a better, happier, healthier life than you’ve currently been living. I will always be the person who tells you a truth you don’t want to hear rather than a lie that makes you comfortable and feel validated. I’m not making a penny off of this endeavor and I volunteer my time for you. I write out my wisdom to share what I have learned, because there are so many people that I love who have given their power away to some outside agency and they are now a victim of their own lives and their own choices. I know of people who, despite having all of their healthcare and bills and groceries covered by the taxpayer, will moan about being a victim and how nothing ever works out for them and how due to what they’ve been through, they just can’t be expected to make good choices or take responsibility for themselves or be held accountable.

absolutely. not.

Victimhood is a mindset. When everything happens “to” you, you are powerless against it, and it just keeps happening, and you don’t know why. The reason why it happens is because you view it as “things happening to you” rather than “things designed to make you stronger.” Women especially are prone to this, because in this reality, we are generally taught that we have no power. But that’s an absolute lie, because while it’s true that, no, we generally don’t have the raw physical power to do what men do, we mistakenly believe that this means we don’t have the power to halt things from happening to us, or to have power over ourselves. Most of us women are simply unaware that our outside surroundings are a direct projection of whatever our inside beliefs are- as in, if you believe you’re weak or powerless, then you will constantly find people trampling all over you as your inner self’s means of validating what you already believe.

I had an epiphany the other night. The biggest lie that we’re taught in this life, as women, is that we have no power, and must defer to the man to meet all the needs and make all the decisions. We have it drilled into our head through media, churches, and just societal brainwashing in general, that we are secondary to the alpha carnivores, which obviously makes us prey in a world of scary man people who like to beat each other up for fun. But what have we done with that information? Rather than endeavor to make ourselves stronger, we seek to defang the very people who protect us and build our world. We try to make our men kinder and softer and gentler and rounder, when they need to be the very opposite. We have sought to destroy the Alpha-ness of our men rather than perhaps rise to the occasion and be the complementary partner for our Alpha. And this is the problem with our society- that weak women who have no control over themselves either seek to control other people as a means of making themselves “feel” empowered (despite only digging themselves a deeper hole) OR they simply find themselves as a damsel in distress constantly, with no ability to solve their own problems because they think they can’t. The feminist movement has absolutely destroyed our society, and I don’t care who gets offended that I say this. All we’ve done is turned women into inferior men while devaluing the men themselves, which in turn makes them check out of society, making life harder for all of us because women now actually have to work harder.

Instead of making ourselves betas who don’t have any power to defend ourselves OR puffing ourselves up to try to equal an Alpha (and failing miserably), why don’t we women choose to be Omegas instead? Think omnivore. Foxes are an excellent example. So are rats. True omnivores are only 3% of the planet, with carnivores making up 64% of the planet and herbivores making up roughly 32%. Omnivores absolutely have the potential to be prey, but they generally have defense mechanisms in place to bite the crap out of you if you try to mess with them. In human terms, an Omega woman is neither preyed on by the Alphas nor does she act predatory to prey. She is the true blend of strength and softness. She is brave enough to march into a coal mine if her husband forgot his lunch. She will bite the head off of anyone who disrespects her man. She pulls her Alpha out of his comfy chair on Saturday afternoons to go to the gym with her. She doesn’t buy him garbage food that is actually poison just because he “enjoys” it and instead stands up to him and makes him eat salads occasionally instead of Pop Tarts- and he listens to her, because he knows her strength. She empowers herself to research recipes so that she can make him Cheez Its from scratch. In short, Omega women make Alpha men stronger and better. More, Omega women can see when human prey is being preyed upon even when they can’t see it themselves. There are wolves dressed as sheep all over this world, and I can see them with startling 4k clarity. Omega women make the wolves dressed as sheep afraid, because I see them for what they are.

Now, a lot of the above is directed at women, but men, it’s your turn, now.

I generally have mixed feelings about Jordan Peterson, but he said something recently that I 100% agree with. Young men, it is your responsibility to turn yourself into an absolute monster… and then tame that monster. If you don’t have the ability to defend your wife with your bare hands, then you are not living up to what God put you on this planet to do. I don’t care how soft you are, how many video games you have wasted your life and your body playing, or how many excuses you have- eating Burger King and playing WOW all evening is an absolute disgrace of your life. Like, I get it, often it’s how you’re raised, and if you were raised soft, then I blame your dad, but after age 16 or so, you have a duty to get yourself into shape and run yourself through an Agoge (the Spartans sent their sons through this training… from age 7 on, they learned to fight, to steal, to kill, to hunt, etc. They came back at age 16 or so, fully men.) Men need fights to fight. Men need to kick other men and bash their arms against things. And amazingly, the strongest men generally turn out the kindest, because they do not suffer from a lack of confidence.

My husband, for those of you who do not know, is one of the most deadly human beings on the planet. He is 6’4 and nearly solid muscle. Beginning at age 3, he took Taekwondo lessons from a Grand Master who essentially taught the Korean Special Forces soldiers how to kill in the 60’s. My husband came home bloody from sparring beginning at age 7. He played soccer, ran marathons, and then enlisted into US Army Modern Combatives training. I am thankful my husband was raised the way he was, because for all the talk about “toxic masculinity,” it’s actually a lack of masculinity that’s the other problem in this world- too sharp of women, too soft of men. A brutal combination. The cruelest, meanest man I ever knew in my life was an obese man-child who beat up on his own wife and son, and he legitimately thinks he’s the smartest guy in the room because he looked into a microscope at a commercial lab once. That guy needs a run through Army Basic Training if anyone ever does, because for men, the condition of your physical vessel is a direct correlation to your inner health. And his wife allowed his abuse for years because he made her feel powerless. She believed him rather than straight punching him in the face over his treatment of her, because she mistakenly believes that anger is bad- because that’s what society says. Don’t get angry, it’s bad. Just tolerate everything, liberals say.

again. no.

I speak on these subjects to demystify them because I am intimately familiar with them. For the first few years of my marriage with my husband, I spent a great deal of time scrunching up my nose and being offended at a lot of my husband’s perfectly normal behavior. I took everything personally instead of letting things just roll off me. If he cracked a harmless joke, I felt like he was putting me down, which was absolutely not the case, considering that men tease to show love, and I didn’t realize that- instead, I tried to control his behavior so that I wouldn’t have hurt feelings all the time. I tried to defang my own husband due to my own feelings of weakness. Then some weird years happened where I had a drug problem and broke my brain open. My early blog posts cover this. But then, something else weird began to happen. I ceased to become “beta” and started to become “Omega.” I became strong enough to stand with him. I regularly force myself into fasting prolonged periods of time. I have self control. I don’t blame anyone else for problems and no one ever tries to hurt me anymore because my higher soul self knows I don’t need those lessons anymore. And yeah, I literally care not at all what other people think of me- it’s their problem, not mine, because I am absolutely delightful. Someone could tell me the most horrible insults directly to my face, and all I’d say is, “Ye who smelt it, dealt it.”

How does this help you?

People, you have to confidently drive your own life. God gave you a car so that you can go anywhere, but it’s up to you where you go and how you drive there. You can’t just sit back and let God drive for you… you won’t go anywhere, because God didn’t create you to wallow in shame and drown your feelings in McDonalds or become agoraphobic or say “poor me.” God created you to be absolutely magnificent. If you refuse to drive your life, now you’re letting the enemy drive it for you, which is where most of us begin to feel put-upon. It’s as if our life is holding our own hands and smacking our faces with it, saying, “Stop hitting yourself Stop hitting yourself.” It only stops once you wrench your hands out of the grip of the one who is making you hit yourself with your own hands and say

no more.

Stop saying things like “Nothing ever works out for me.” Because you’re making that true. Stop saying things like “I’m so bad.” Because you make it true. Stop saying things like “I have no power.” Because you make it true.

And now, to really ram home how much power we actually have, some Hindu wisdom.

There is a Hindu legend about a time when all humans were gods, but they abused that divinity. They so abused it that Brahma, the chief god,  decided to take it away from them and hide it where they would never find it again. Where to hide it became the big question.

The lesser gods were called into council to consider this question: “Where shall we hide humanity’s divinity?” The council said, “We will bury humanity’s divinity deep in the earth, but Brahma  said, “No that will not do; one day they will dig down deep into the earth and will find it.”

Then they said, “We will sink their divinity into the deepest ocean.” Again Brahma replied, “No, not there, for they will learn to dive into the deepest waters, and search the ocean bed and find it.”

Then the lesser gods said, “We will take it to the top of the highest mountain and hide it there.” But again Brahma replied, “No, for eventually humans will climb every high mountain on earth; they will be sure some day to find it and take it up again.”

Then the lesser gods gave up and concluded, “We do not know where to hide it, for it seems there is no place on the earth or in the sea that humans will not eventually reach.” Then Brahma said, “Here is what we will do with humanity’s divinity. We will hide it deep down inside the humans themselves; they will never think to look for it there.”

Ever since then, the legend concludes, humans have been going to and fro throughout the earth, climbing, digging, diving, exploring, and searching for something already within themselves. The divinity within humanity is still the best-kept secret of the ages.

I know better than most- our power is within us. Amazingly enough, Jesus also taught this concept, but modern churches say “The Kingdom of Heaven is Within You” is just a mistranslation which is such a breathtaking display of brainwashing, because when you have enough life perspective, you begin to see how everything in your life happens for you and not to you. After being widowed, living through prostitution and homelessness, healing from a drug problem, and giving up my child for her happiness, I have all the excuses in the world as to why I just should have rolled over and given up- until one day, I realized that living a life of victimized weakness is exactly what the enemy wants for us. Jesus wants you to hit the gym at 6am before work so that you can punch evil in the face. Jesus wants you to eat a salad instead of McDonalds. Jesus wants you to give up sugar and alcohol and other worldly vices because those vices aren’t of Him. And now? I am actually thankful for my life. All of the awful parts of it made me stronger and led me out of a pit I didn’t even know I was in- a pit I could only see once I had gained altitude.

Part of fixing your mindset is coming to terms with the fact that nearly everything on this planet that is made by man is designed to weaken you and sicken you. Yes, nearly EVERYTHING. The TV. All fast food. Seed oils. Sugar. Modern wheat. Non-organic vegetables and fruits. Pasteurized milk. Air fresheners. Polyester sheets. The very people you trust are quite often bribed to lead you astray. They will tell you half-truths without giving you the full story. I grew up in a religion that taught about fasting, but only for half a day. This robs people of the health benefits of prolonged fasting and doesn’t actually teach you why it’s important. They also teach that cannabis is the same as alcohol- a “drug” - when one is a plant that God put here for our medicinal usage and the other is created by man and promoted everywhere from billboards to commercials on TV. One shrinks tumor cells, the other gives you fatty liver disease. By lumping weed in with alcohol, an avenue of healing has been removed from good people over a belief that a plant God put here on this world purposely is somehow forbidden. No one has been able to give me a convincing reason why a loving God would give us a plant that cures cancer but would punish us for using it… perhaps we have such high cancer rates because certain religions say God prefers you not use the cancer-curing plant or you will be punished.? We as humans disavow things that could actually be good for us based upon what someone else has said about it instead of using your God-given critical thinking skills to find out for yourself. Yeah, it’s scary finding out what’s true and what’s not, but I’d rather wake up in a vat of goo and realize I used to be a slave, than to refuse to see the truth and continue to be a slave. You can’t fight evil if you aren’t aware of how it operates.

Trust me, I am as gentle as a dove to a newborn, any child, a person in distress, etc. I hug grandmothers and I pray for the homeless. My hands wash dishes, pray, feed others, change diapers, and make shadow puppets. I am as kind as can be to every human on the planet, whether you are a predator or prey.

But I am absolutely capable of punching evil in the face.

Because that is what my God requires of His battle angels, and I truly believe that if you are incapable of fighting evil, then you are unwittingly doing its bidding.

War is not won in a single moment, but rather, in 100,000 individual bullets. I make a good choice instead of an unhealthy one that the enemy wants me to make, 100+ times per day. Sleep in? No, get up early. Skip workout? No, go running. Coffee with lots of sugar? No, adaptogen tea with honey. Donut? No, scrambled eggs with spinach. Take a nap? No, work on building your business. Lose your temper at a customer service person who messed my account up? No, make her laugh, and thank her for her time. Be lazy? No, take a shower. Talk over a person who has a differing opinion from mine and insist I’m right? No, hear them out in case I can learn something. Eat two portions of dinner? No, just one. Ice cream for dessert? No, just a handful of trail mix. Leave dishes in the sink overnight? Nah, knock them out before bed.

Consider that everything the enemy wants you to do is easier than what Jesus wants for you, and now you understand the trap. (I want to make it clear, however, I’m still human. My clean laundry occasionally sits on my couch for days at a time, and for every 100 decisions I make that are good, I might make three lazy ones.)

No one tells you how lonely it can be learning to punch evil in the face, but no butterfly can explain flight to a caterpillar, either. It’s sort of a, “Just trust me bro” kind of thing.

Find the strength to grow wings, my friends, and stop fearing consequences for challenging your beliefs. When your validation comes from the light inside instead of fitting in with the crowd, you fly.

Long story short, you are either the victim of your life, or the victor of your life.

No one can decide but you, kiddos.